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Escape is important right now

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Greetings from quarantine!

How is everyone doing? Hanging in there?

It’s a wild fucking time to be alive.

Ben and I were talking the other day about panic buying and whether that had been a phenomenon at any other time in our lives. We thought about Y2K, but we were so young then that we didn’t do our families’ shopping. And we weren’t particularly worried because one, we were young and young people don’t worry as much about stuff like that, and two, we grew up with computers and were pretty sure the world wouldn’t end because of them at that point.

Ben mentioned last year’s snow-pocalypse and we definitely caught wind of panic about that, but our stores weren’t running out of TP.

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Me (left) and friend Karen during Snow-pocalypse 2018 – The students built the snowman. We just took pictures with it.

All that is to say, here we are living through a pandemic and it’s unnerving for absolutely everyone. It’s new. It’s scary.

It’s more unnerving for those whose wallets will suffer, which is a nice euphemism for desperation.

Ben and I are working from home and getting paid. Jacob is not working from home, but the library is still paying him, which is awesome and the right thing to do.

And I worry about the workers who aren’t getting paid and can’t afford to lose a paycheck. That’s who’s really suffering, the folks who can least afford to. The people with the shittiest health coverage and the smallest paychecks.

I have no idea what to do about that. I’d pray, but I don’t believe in god anymore. So, I’ll try to help where I can. Try to patronize local businesses as best I can and tip extra hard when I can. Maybe we’ll all get Trump Bucks, but that’s a stopgap measure for people who can’t afford to eat.

Meanwhile, I can’t read.

37774050The slump I knew would come is here. I’m absolutely waddling through Old in Art School and I can’t find another audiobook thriller to listen to and my brain is just so full of work to-dos (which have ramped up) and anxiety.

But I know that my brain really really really needs a break. I can’t go on like this, with only to-dos in front of me.

I happened upon this article: “Why ‘getting lost in a book’ is so good for you, according to science” and I know from experience that it’s points are all true.

We can’t always be “on.” That’s why overwhelmed healthcare workers (and supermarket staff and bus drivers and Amazon Prime delivery people) are struggling right now. Our brains and bodies are truly not capable of constant, high-level performance. Anyone who’s worked long hours knows that. Important things, inevitably slip through the cracks.

So, I’m going to keep trying, in my off hours, to give my brain the rest it is craving.

Some things that have helped:

  • Baths—I make a point of taking a bath every night. I know it’s an overused recommendation, but I’ve only just come to love baths, so I’m recommending them. but if you’re sick of hearing that, I get it, and here’s a good post for you.

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    Bath, candles, Captain Morgan – a winning combo

  • Journal—You don’t have to write if you hate writing. You can record yourself talking to your phone, then delete it if you want to. Figure out a way to get your feelings “physically” out of your mind. At the very least, this will at least help you acknowledge them. And sometimes that’s all it takes to feel better. At the most, you may discover you were feeling something you didn’t know about and may be able to sort that out…which will make you feel better.
  • Set boundaries—Little known self-care practice that introverts have been performing for years. Because we need time away from other people to feel like ourselves, setting boundaries may come more naturally to us.

    But even extroverts who are dying for human contact right now can set boundaries with people who are a drain on their psyche. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE YOUR SANITY. And if you set a boundary with someone and they have feelings about that, that is none of your business. Their feelings are their responsibility. Just like taking care of yourself is yours.

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    This is not about being unkind. It is about being honest with yourself about your needs and limitations, then being responsible enough to meet your own needs. (If you struggle with this like I usually do, Boundaries by Anne Katherine is a great book to read.)

    p.s. This includes time away from your children. If they don’t need you watching them every moment, let them see you take time out for yourself. That will teach them that all people have needs, including them, and that it is necessary for grown-ups to be responsible for meeting their own needs. And you want them to grow up capable of meeting their own needs, right?
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  • Stop news-hounding—Stop it. Time away from your phone or Facebook or TV or whatever is brining word of the current crisis into your life will not kill you. In fact, society will go on being terrible and wonderful and you knowing about every development immediately as it happens is not going to change that.
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    You can create peace for yourself in this moment by removing yourself from the fray. You can come back to it any time and it will still be there. But mind and body are physically deteriorated by stress. So, you choose: news as it happens or your actual health.
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  • Music—Listen to whatever you’re into right now and watch your mood change. Bonus if you share via message with friends.
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  • Memes—The meme generation is hard at work making us laugh right now. Find some funny memes and enjoy! (Good ones about working from home with your spouse.)
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  • Take advantage of online everything—My Facebook feed is filled with resources from museums and libraries. Catch up on your favorite blog even—just make sure their latest posts have nothing to do with the pandemic. I love Frock Flicks and Man Repeller.
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  • Board games/puzzles/video games—The tried and true are tried and true for a reason.
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  • Binge-watching—Do it for your health.
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  • Arts/crafts—Take a break from the virtual in favor of the tactile. Art therapy and occupational therapy are entire fields that prove the importance of making.

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Ok, that was a lot and I got real preachy, sorry.

Really, this is a list for me. I just have a lot of things running through my brain right now, as does everyone, so I wanted to get them out of my head and maybe even help other people.

If this helps you too, I’m so happy.

Whatever you do, just remember that escape is not frivolous. It’s a matter of survival. Especially during the tough times.

Finally, comment or send me your thriller recommendations, please! I’m desperate!

Specifically, I love well-written domestic thrillers with women protagonists à la Natalie Barelli and Greer Hendricks. I can’t get into Sophie Hannah, Tana French, Gillian Flynn, Paula Hawkins, or Ruth Ware—so you see why I’m struggling…

One last meme for the road.

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Top Ten Tuesday: Bookish Discoveries I Made In 2019

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Top Ten Tuesday is a weekly top ten list hosted by Jana at Artsy Reader Girl.

If there’s anything I like as much as reading, it’s learning about books, talking about books, and discovering books. OK, that was three things. But yeah. That’s why I have a book blog. If it involves books, I’m in!

So when I saw this week’s topic, I knew I wanted to share a list. Below are the Top Ten Bookish Discoveries I Made in 2019, which Jana indicates can be books, authors, blogs, websites, apps, products, etc.

Here we go!

299278401. New author: Barbara Pym

Believe it or not, I had never head of author Barbara Pym until I saw her novel Quartet in Autumn listed on Five Books. I started reading it but got distracted. But I did listen to the entire audiobook version of Excellent Women and I loved it.

 


2. A fun blog: unrulyreader.com

Books and book thoughts by Stacey, a librarian who hosts a Book Bingo game each year. I always enjoy hearing about what she’s reading. (Link)


3. Books at the Museum of the American Revolution

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I had the pleasure of visitng Philadelphia for a second time in July. One afternoon, after conference sessions, I walked around a historic area (I love the federal/colonial style architecture in the city) and happened upon the Museum of the American Revolution. I didn’t tour the museum as I was a bit tired, but I popped into the museum shopped and enjoyed perusing the books. Because I’m on a budget, I only bought Sally Wister’s Journal. But I took note of others and ended up buying the kindle version of Ties That Bound: Founding First Ladies and Slaves when I got home. And I checked out The Winthrop Woman by Anya Seton at the library. I love finding books while traveling!


4. Inflatable kayaks

inflatablekayakI didn’t know that inflatable kayaks were a thing until I read Hidden Nature: A Voyage of Discovery by Alys Fowler. I put two on my Christmas wish list and my sister- and brother-in-law came through, sending both kayaks and two life vests for my husband (or son) and me. I’m really looking forward to paddling down the river near our house in the spring.


5. The Literary Ladies Guide

I really enjoy following the Literary Ladies Guide on Facebook. Today, my feed hit me with this gem:

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If that doesn’t just sum up working in a cubicle…


13167087._SY475_6. A rediscovery: Augusten Burroughs

I rediscovered Augusten Burroughs and ended up reading three of his books: Running With Scissors (a reread), Dry, and This is How. I liked This is How so much that I bought it. More here.

 

 


313267. Another new author: W. Somerset Maugham

I’d never heard of W. Somerset Maugham, but I came across Theatre in the classics section at the library and fell in love. May read another of his this year for the Back to the Classics Challenge.

 


8. The book that spurred a trip to the Robie House

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At long last!

Several years ago, I discovered author Blue Balliet and read her children’s novel The Wright Three about three young sleuths solving a mystery around the Robie House, a Frank Lloyd Wright house in Chicago’s Hyde Park. It’s such a good book. Since then, I’ve wanted to visit that house, but none of our Chicago trips led me there. 2019 was the year! I finally made it to the house and Ben, Jacob, and I took one of their tours. It truly is a Frank Lloyd Wright masterpiece and an architectural treasure. I’m grateful to the author who led me there.

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Here’s a view from across the street. Prairie style at its finest.

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And check out these windows!


9. I realized I had a low-key reading project going

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I’m rereading books from my younger years to see what I think now. Re-discovery is as fun as discovery sometimes. More here.


10. I truly cannot think of a 10th item…

What did you discover last year? Please share!

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Is there a book you think everyone should read before they die?

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Thanks to a Facebook post by the Literary Ladies Guide, I have been thinking about this.

Is there a particular book you think every single person would benefit from reading in their lifetime?

Reading tastes are so personal. People who read for pleasure just read what they like, not what others have told them they “should” read. (I’m a big believer that you shouldn’t use the word should in the first place, unless it’s in dictating how we treat other people.) The point of reading for pleasure is that it’s pleasurable! I don’t want people to have to read books that feel like swallowing cough syrup.

On the other hand, throughout my reading life, I’ve come to understand that reading widely is the method by which I attempt to understand the world and the other people in it. Experiencing the world is important, of course. But because I have a regular job in an office and most of my friends are of the same socioeconomic class as me, I have to intentionally seek out diverse experiences. And one of the ways I do that is through reading.

For me, it’s important to read about other people’s lives in order to understand them. I read about people from other cultures in order to learn how they are similar to and different from me. It is an important aspect of my reading and the reason I was so disappointed to see that I’d only read 2 books by non-white authors last year.

Essentially, in my own life, books have been a powerful catalyst in helping me to understand other people’s lives. They have given me the gift of empathy and the willingness to acknowledge that my perspective and worldview are not the only perspective and worldview (and certainly not the only “right” worldview) that matter.

Other than immeasurable pleasure, this is what reading has meant to me.

Having seen the power that books wield, I want everyone to read books by people whose life experiences differ from their own. To read books by authors of other races, genders, countries of origin, sexual orientation, social classes, political views, and languages.

But I don’t know that I could pick just one book that I’d want everyone to read. Because who’s to say that book will affect others the way it affected me?

That preamble aside, in mulling over this question, several books did come quickly to mind. So, here are four books I would love for everyone to read. But no presh! 🙂


The Color PurpleThe Color Purple by Alice Walker

This is one I read as a teenager and I continue to read it periodically as an adult. In the 90s, it helped this young white girl to understand that racism is still, and was always, very much alive in the U.S. despite a Civil War that was fought, or so she was taught, to free slaves in the name of equality. It drove home the terrible injustice served up by systemic racism. I would love for all people, at least all Americans, to read this one.


ThesoulofAnOctopusThe Soul of an Octopus: A Surprising Exploration Into the Wonder of Consciousness

This might seem like a weird choice to some, but this book helped me understand the fullness of life beyond what we see every day. There is life being lived by creatures that science has only just begun to understand. Best of all, in reading this book, I felt an incredible sense of wonder, not an emotion that comes readily to me as a cubicle warrior who lives in a midsized city.


Things Fall Apart (The African Trilogy, #1)

Things Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe

I read this classic in high school and again in college. It’s a glimpse into the life of a Nigerian Igbo tribe that reveals the effects of colonialism. Once again, this is a book that opened up another culture to me and taught me to question the dominant values of the society in which I live.


8520610Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain

I almost didn’t include this one, but I’m gonna’. In this book, Susan Cain really toes the line between introvert appreciation and extrovert bashing. And even though I am a classic introvert, I don’t think one way of being is better than another. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being an extrovert.

But this book is stellar in a couple of ways that are important to me: It helped me and a lot of other people understand the differences between being shy and being an introvert (I am both, hah!). And it outlines and promotes the value of introvert ways of thinking in a country (I’m thinking just the U.S. here) that rewards extroversion (namely in the world of work).

It helped me personally to feel seen and understood. But I’ve also spoken with several extreme extroverts, including the vice president of my division at work, who said it helped them understand that introverts/quiet people/reserved people aren’t dysfunctional. They just have a rich inner life that can’t be expressed on demand, especially in a room of extroverts. I love that a book has the power to bridge gaps like that!


989013Boundaries by Anne Katherine

Every time I see a post on Facebook about how someone is upset, it’s usually because someone they love or loved has crossed a boundary. This book is about giving yourself permission to set boundaries that keep you not just safe, but sane. I wish everyone would read it and try to identify themselves in the boundaries setters and boundary crossers. Most of us have been both. Reading this book would lead to self-awareness that would benefit so many people.


And that’s where I’ll leave it.

I would love to know, is there one book, or are there several books you wish everyone would read? Tell me what yours are!

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The Accidental Re-reading Project

Guys! I have a little reading project going and I didn’t realize it until now. I’ve been re-reading books from my teenage/college years kind of intentionally but not on a schedule. Spontaneously, I’ll remember a book I loved during those years and then order it so I have a copy and re-read it just to see what 39-year-old Shannon thinks.

I didn’t recognize it as a pattern until today. Perhaps my subconscious, knowing me quite well, has kept this pattern from being noticed by my conscious mind because she knooows it would just turn into a big fat PROJECT with a spreadsheet and thus end in disappointment when I inevitably didn’t finish it.

But…isn’t that fun? I think I’ll make a category for it so one can sort through all the posts that are part of the project. And I’ll go back and re-categorize books I’ve purposefully re-read and blogged about so they all show up.

Right now, I’m re-reading Object of My Affection by Stephen McCauley, which teenage Shannon read about five times, and which became a movie starring Jennifer Aniston and Paul Rudd.

Here’s a small stack of books I’ve bought in the past year or so (peep the copy of Follow That Boy – don’t judge me, it was the early 90s! :D).

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Next, I’m planning on acquiring some of the books we read in my college Feminist Memoir class. I remember loving those books and that whole class was an eye-opener for a cis, white, Midwestern teenager.

So, do you re-read books from your past to see if present you still feels the same way (good or bad) about them? Tell me!

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Books we…love, hate, etc.

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I also like books about the Tudors

I saw this on a Facebook post in a book group I’m in and thought I’d try it just to see what my brain comes up with. Then, I asked my boys to fill it out too. We thought there could be a ton of overlap between categories but tried to avoid it.

BOOK I HATE: The Shack. The effing Shack. If I never hear about that terrible book again, it will be too soon.

BOOK I LOVE: Jane Eyre; I love lots of books. This is just one.

BOOK I THINK IS OVERRATED: The DaVinci Code ; Girl, Wash Your Face (So sick of seeing this schlock everywhere, especially endorsed by MLM sellers.)

BOOK I THINK IS UNDERRATED: Bad Marie by Marcy Dermansky; Dietland by Sarai Walker

BOOK I COULD READ ON REPEAT: One Thousand White Women: The Journals of May Dodd by Jim Fergus, The Lord of the Ring series, The Secret Garden

BOOK THAT MADE ME FALL IN LOVE WITH BOOKS: Caddie Woodlawn by Carol Ryrie Brink – I read this in about third grade and, while I was already an avid Baby-sitters Club reader, this book sort of opened me up to the general wonder of books, maybe because it was about a girl my age and set in a different time. Historical fiction is still one of my favorite genres.

BOOK THAT CHANGED MY LIFE: Operating Instructions by Anne Lamott; given to me by a friend as a young mother and it helped me to have less mom-guilt.

GUILTY PLEASURE: Books about French women doing it better; books by Cathy Glass; Confessions of a Shopaholic by Sophie Kinsella

BOOK I SHOULD HAVE READ BY NOW BUT HAVEN’T: War and Peace, The Catcher in the Rye, Les Mis, and anything by Virginia Woolf

Here’s Ben’s

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Unrelated pic of Artemis for fun

BOOK I HATE: The Pearl. Had to read it for school. Who knew that a book so short could be so tedious, or that symbolism so heavy-handed could be regarded as impressive?

Book I LOVE: Moby Dick. It seems to be polarizing, but I love it. Thought about it for “Underrated” but it’s recognized as a classic so it can’t be THAT underrated.

BOOK I THINK IS OVERRATED: To Kill A Mockingbird. I read it and it was totally decent. But it gets wayyy too much hype. Fight me.

BOOK I THINK IS UNDERRATED: The Name of The Wind (and the Kingkiller Chronicle in general) is amazing. But it is naturally overlooked because it’s “genre” fiction. And it hasn’t crossed over to the mainstream like Game of Thrones or Harry Potter, despite being better than either.

BOOK I COULD Read ON REPEAT: The Long Goodbye by Raymond Chandler

BOOK THAT MADE ME FALL IN LOVE WITH BOOKS: The Hobbit by J.R.R. Tolkien, particularly the Michael Hague illustrated edition gifted to me by my Aunt Kate. It features an engaging story, glorious world-building, and the book itself is beautiful.

BOOKS THAT CHANGED MY LIFE: The Hobbit (because see above), Life Inc by Douglas Rushkoff, Watership Down, On the Genealogy of Morality, After Buddhism by Stephen Batchelor, and the works of David Gemmell. No one book in particular for Gemmell, just all the down-to-earth philosophy he doles out through his characters.

GUILTY PLEASURE: The Complete Hammer’s Slammers Vol 1

BOOK I SHOULD HAVE READ BY NOW BUT HAVEN’T: A People’s History of The United States

And here’s Jake’s…

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Just one more

BOOK I HATE: A Thousand Acres by Jane Smiley

BOOK I LOVE: The Great Gatsby; Animal Farm; 7 Brief Lessons on Physics

BOOK I THINK IS OVERRATED: The Wide Sargasso Sea

BOOK I THINK IS UNDERRATED: Captain America Comics

BOOK I COULD Read ON REPEAT: Ender’s Game

BOOK THAT MADE ME FALL IN LOVE WITH BOOKS: Redwall

BOOK THAT CHANGED MY LIFE: Animal Farm

BOOK I SHOULD HAVE Read BY NOW BUT HAVEN’T: Moby Dick

 

So, how about you? What would you list under some of these categories?

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I’m in a reading slump so give me your best tips

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Not today, TBR pile.

Really mailing it in right now on the reading front. Ugh.

What breaks you out of a reading slump?

I have some general strategies around this as it is not my first rodeo. They include but are not limited to:

  • Reading something really short. Something I can knock out in an afternoon just to get the gears in my brain grinding. May result in momentum gained and, therefore, a renewed interest in reading in general. Or may not.
  • Reading something squarely in my wheelhouse. Ben taught me this one. This is not the time for reading challenges or tackling the stack of books I want to have read but don’t actually want to read (another phrase borrowed from Ben). This is the time for: reading the next book in a series I know I like; reading something new from a favorite author; rereading something from a favorite author; and themes I know and love (for me: ghosts, oppressed women; historical fiction; weight loss memoirs, self-help that I don’t find too annoying, etc.). This is the low-hanging fruit of your TBR or ABR (Already Been Read).
  • Reading a children’s book. If Mary Downing Hahn can’t get me through a reading slump, there may be no hope. In my experience, children’s books tend to move quickly because they can be plot-based and the language and characters are approachable. (Don’t come at me, children’s lit experts. I, too, am well-versed in the topic and these are generalizations. I’m aware of that.)  ❤
  • Audiobooks. I walk often and audiobooks are my boon companion. Those who cannot read may find that being read to is a much easier way to consume a book.
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Things I do in “production” mode: Art/crafting, puzzles, walking, decorating, writing

Accepting that I don’t want to read.

Quelle horreur! This gets its own section. People who love to read, who are book nerds, who take joy in tallying up the titles they conquer, can have a hard time accepting this one.

Also, I usually feel like my life is missing something when I can’t read. It is a major part of my existence and, therefore, my identity.

But I go through these “modes” in my life that I have come to accept as just how I am. There’s production mode: this is about being creative and making things and doing; not necessarily about accomplishing, more about creativity. And then there’s consumer mode: this one is about taking things in: books, movies, tv, blogs, shows, whatever. Reading is much easier when I’m in consumer mode.

And that is just not the mode I’m in right now.

What about you? Would love to hear about other people’s reading slumps and the reasons/work-arounds.

Thanks so much for stopping by!

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Books I’m no longer interested in reading

This post is part of a blog hop for Top Ten Tuesday hosted by That Artsy Reader Girl. See how it works here.

I hate to use the word “never,” but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve honed my interests and learned the value of giving a hard pass to just about anything I don’t immediately take to. I mean, life is short and time’s a-wastin’.

Why read a book I don’t like or care about?

I have my favorite genres/tropes and a list in my head of books that will always grab my attention—is there an orphan? Is it the 1800s? A nanny and a haunted house? I’m in.

Conversely, I thought it’d be fun to write a list of book themes and tropes that I usually give the dis to. So this week’s Top Ten Tuesday theme was right up my alley.

The kinds of books I never want to read

11. Fairy tales and mythology

I don’t want to read the original stories and I don’t want to read a novelization of Little Red Riding Hood, or a retelling of the unfortunate Persephone/Hades episode. I wrote a paper on fairy tales for a college class on Sorcery and Damnation (no kidding) like 15 years ago and I guess that was it for me. (Update: I just found out about this book and now I want to read it. See? Never say never.)

2. YA dystopia

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Btw, I actually read this when it first came out and really liked it.

I had my fun with The Hunger Games as it was published and now there are so many other dystopian YA books that I can’t keep up. I think I’m just worn out on the theme.

33. Political books or books by politicians

Fiction or nonfiction, I don’t seem to be able to tolerate books that are explicitly about politics. Like at all.

44. Books about WWII

I can’t watch movies about WWII either. I had this war shoved down my throat in public school so forcefully that I can only stand tangential stories. The last book I read set in/around WWII was The War that Saved My Life and that was more of a book about a certain family of displaced kids.

55. Books about how education in this country is going to hell in a handbasket

Education in this country has made a home in this fiery handbasket. I applaud the authors who are trying to incite change, but everything I read on this topic upsets me so much that I’m starting to worry about taking minutes off my life.

66. Anything by Brene Brown

I want to like her style. I just don’t. Instead, I look to Martha Beck for insight into how I can feel better about life.

77. Diet books

Other than the snooty French eating advice I can’t stop reading, I’m sooo done with diet books.

88. Comics

I like a good graphic novel, but I’m just not into comics. Ditto anything that’s on the borderline between comic and graphic novel. Automatic meh from me.

99. And for that matter, anything featuring superheroes

I mean, maybe if the heroes are sort of off the beaten path – like a story about a girl who makes up her own superhero. Or maybe the protagonist is hardcore into a fandom. Other than that, nopenopenope.

1010. Erotic fiction

Unless it’s by Anais Nin. Everything else: yawn.

 

Visit That Arty Reader Girl today to see what everyone else’s lists look like.

Also, I’d love to hear what would make your list of books not to read!

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10 slightly weird niche books/genres I really like

This post is part of a blog hop for Top Ten Tuesday hosted by That Artsy Reader Girl. See how it works here.

When I worked at my public library for about a year, a coworker told me, “I only read nonfiction philosophy.” She was great at recommending books not in her preferred genre to patrons though.

I was thinking about her the other day and ruminating on my own niche tastes, the deep dives I tend to take into some obscure topics. I thought about how many books I own that are kind of peculiarly un-mainstream. I definitely delight in following my curiosity, which is, now that I think about it, one of the chief reasons I read for pleasure.

Anyway, this week’s Top Ten Tuesday theme is a “love freebie,” meaning, I think, that we should create a top ten list of book-related things we love. So, here we go.

Ten slightly weird niche books/genres I really like

1. Ros Byam Shaw

Covers of Perfect English Farmhouse, Perfect English, and English Eccentric by Ros Byam Shaw

I want to live in these books.

I love English interior design so so much. It encompasses both decorating like you live in an English country estate and decorating like you live in a Hobbit Hole. Both are aesthetics to which I aspire.

Ros Bym Shaw is the author of several fantastic coffee table-style decorating books on the topic. She is also my favorite decorating author, though I also adore Justina Blakeney.

2. Needlepoint

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I used to have a blog about needlepoint. A few years ago, I got suuuuper into it and spent a lot of time creating needlepoint and cross-stitch works and, of course, researching and reading about those topics. I don’t do needlepoint anymore because I actually have a hand injury and can’t grip a needle all that well. (It’d be like a dolphin using its flippers to sew.) But I still enjoy books on stitching and the history of “women’s work.” I particularly like Hoopla: The Art of Unexpected Embroidery and the out of print history Plain & Fancy: American Women and Their Needlework, 1650-1850.

3. Unusual job memoirs

Book Covers: Smoke Gets in Your Eyes; It's What I Do; and The Long Haul

To read one of these, I have to actually be interested in the job the writer is doing or has done. Three of my recent faves are:

I also just heard about The Line Becomes a River, a memoir by a former border patrol guard, which I’ll be putting on hold at the library.

4. New Age

Book covers: You Can Heal Your Life; Ghosts Among Us; and Children's Past Lives

I wrote about my somewhat embarrassing affinity for New Age books here. I think it comes from some urge to seek a way of spirituality outside of traditional religion. But I’m not willing to commit to New Age beliefs either. The jury is out, I guess. Anyway, that post mentions a few books I’ve read that are the furthest out from logic.

A few more I’ve enjoyed:

5. Nannies

Covers of: Jane Eyre; This House is Haunted; and Governess

Why do I identify so hard with nannies? I dunno but if the protagonist is a nanny, I’m in.

Some favorites:

  • Jane Eyre (obvi)
  • This House is Haunted
  • Governess: The Lives and Times of the Real Jane Eyres – This is a somewhat academic look at the lives of well-known nannies, including, most interestingly, Mary Wollstonecraft and Claire Clairmont (lover of Lord Byron with whom she had a child). I enjoyed this a lot, but at first I was hoping it’d be a peek into the daily lives of the governesses—it wasn’t. If anyone knows of a book like that, I’d love to read it!

6. Haunted houses

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I like books that make me afraid to get up and go to the bathroom in the middle of the night.

Books like:

  • The Haunting of Hill House – If that nighttime door-banging doesn’t get to you, you are not human.
  • Rebecca – Asks the classic question: Is the house haunted or is it all in your head?
  • The Doll in the Garden – I read this book as a kid and it stuck with me so long that I re-read it last year. Yep, still freaked me out. Mary Downing Hahn, you wizard.

I’m always looking for more of these, so if you have any suggestions, hit me up in the comments—bonus if there’s a nanny!

7. Foster care

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I’m slightly obsessed with books by/about foster mothers and children, both fiction and nonfiction. I wrote a post about my most recent dive into that world here.

These are a few I recommend:

8. Animal memoirs

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No, not memoirs by animals. Memoirs by people about their time spent with animals.

Some favorites are:

9. Tudor history

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Part of my Tudor and Tudor-related collection

I’ve always been interested in British history and literature in general, but honestly, my interest in the Tudors was cemented by the show The Tudors. I fell in love and went through a phase where I read everything I could get my hands on about Henry VIII and his wives. Then, everything I could about any other Tudor.

 

Here’s a mishmash of books I’ve read on the topic:

I will also confess to reading The Other Boleyn Girl and seeing the movie. DON’T JUDGE ME.

10. Women leaving oppressive religions

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I left Catholicism (not because I found it oppressive but because it didn’t make sense for me) so I suppose that’s where this interest comes from. I like books about women leaving long-established religions as well as books about women who’ve left homes where weird made-up religious rules were foisted upon them.

These are a few standouts:

11. And a bonus category: anything about how the French do it better

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Sick of these books? I find them condescending at best, but I still love a good book on how the French are doing things better. Cooking better, eating better, raising their children better. I wonder if I’m into this theme because I partially agree with the sentiment?

A few I’ve enjoyed:

To see what other people did with this Top Ten prompt, check out today’s post on That Artsy Reader Girl.

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Kids books, That Reading Life

Chapter books we read to our son

Cover of My Big Truck Book

A nouveau classic

As a baby, Jacob had some favorite board books (Sandra Boynton, Is Your Mama a Llama?, Dr. Seuss, anything about trucks, etc.) and we gradually moved up to regular picture books (Berenstain Bears, the Duck on a Bike books, more Dr. Seuss, etc.), which we checked out of the library by the dozen.

Pillow Fort: Chapter books we read to our son

Jacob, when he was still young enough to be read to (and his buddy Bun-bun)

And then we moved on to chapter books, as you do. We read to Jake before bed each night pretty much right up through fifth grade. I remember very clearly the night he asked if we could stop reading at bedtime. I think he already have a girlfriend at that point, a sign of the changing times. Sigh. The days are long but the years are short, yada yada.

But onward!

This post is about chapter books, the ones he remembers listening to and the ones we remember reading. Those two don’t necessarily coincide. Also, my husband and I often read a different book to Jacob as we took turns on bedtime duty, my husband reading one night, me reading the next, one of us reading night after night if a book was getting really good.

Maybe this list will inspire you if you’re a parent of little ones. Or maybe you read the same books to your kids. Meet me in the comments!

The List

Here they are in no particular order and I doubt this is a complete list, sorry.

The Castle in the Attic, My Father's Dragon, Tiger

The Castle in the Attic by Elizabeth Winthrop – A great book if you have a kid that likes knights and castles.

My Father’s Dragon by Ruth Stiles Gannett – A classic.

The Five Ancestors books by Jeff Stone – We read all seven of the originals before the Our of the Ashes books came out. Lots of martial arts in these, plus some good storytelling.

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A Series of Unfortunate Events by Lemony Snicket – We did a combo of reading these aloud and listening to the audiobooks in the car. They were great and filled, as Lemony Snicket is, with jokes for the grown-ups too.

Henry Huggins by Beverly Cleary – I checked out this audiobook at our library when Jake was about five and we were both riveted. I think we listened to it about four more times throughout his childhood. It’s awesomely narrated by Neil Patrick Harris. Highly recommend.

George’s Marvelous Medicine by Roald Dahl – Another fantastic audiobook we listened to over and over.

And while we’re on Roald Dahl…

The Witches, The Twits

The Witches – This book is legit creepy.

The Twits – Fun gross stuff.

And moving right along…

Watership Down ,The Magic Thief, The Hobbit, The Fellowship of the Ring

Watership Down by Richard Adams

The Magic Thief series by Sarah Prineas – These weren’t my favorite, but Jake liked them.

The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings series by J.R.R. Tolkien – Ben’s father read these to him and his siblings when they were kids and Ben read them all to Jacob. Maybe he’ll keep up the tradition.

Redwall, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone, Tarzan of the Apes, Little Women

Redwall by Brian Jacques

Hufflepuff scarf

I’m a proud Hufflepuff. Jake and Ben are Slytherins. We make it work.

Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling – We read each book and then watched the movie. Delightful.

Tarzan of the Apes by Edgar Rice Burroughs – This one was so much fun. I’d never read it before.

Little Women by Louisa May Alcott – We didn’t quite make it through this but we made it far enough, I’d say. It’s a book I adore, but I’d forgotten how condescending Marmee could be. In that vein, I found The Big Trouble with Little Women interesting.

Book of a Thousand Days, Knight's Castle, Treasure Island

Book of a Thousand Days by Shannon Hale – An off-beat one to be reading to Jacob, but we both enjoyed it.

Knight’s Castle (Tales of Magic, #2) by Edward Eager – More knights! More castles!

Treasure Island by Robert Louis Stevenson

Sideways Stories from Wayside School, Diary of a Wimpy Kid, Dinosaurs Before Dark

Sideways Stories from Wayside School (Wayside School #1) by Louis Sachar

Diary of a Wimpy Kid series by Jeff Kinney – I think he got too old around book six. He also would read these himself or sometimes pull an old one out and we’d read a few chapters for fun.

The Magic Treehouse books by Mary Pope Osborne – Good ole Jack ‘n Annie.

And that’s honestly all I can remember right now! It’s been fun to look back though and talk about it with Jacob.

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That Reading Life, Top Ten Tuesday

Books that have been on my TBR the longest (and that I still haven’t read)

This post is part of a blog hop for Top Ten Tuesday hosted by That Artsy Reader Girl. See how it works here.


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Shelfie photoI have myriad ways of managing my TBR (or “To Be Read” for the uninitiated) pile, which I have already written about here. So, responding to this prompt has been a combination of shelf-scanning and delving into the bowels of my Amazon wish lists.

In the end, I found the books I’ve been postponing the longest are books I already own. They’ve been sitting on the TBR shelf (pictured), some of them for several years, waiting patiently for me to stop checking out books at the library. And I just don’t feel any urgency because I already own them. They’re not going away unless I purge them, so there’s no rush.

That said, I also discovered that I actually don’t keep TBR books around that long. I do a decent job of reading them or purging. I mean, we’re running out of bookshelf space in my house, so there’s no sense in collecting new books unless I’m purging old ones to even the balance.

Enough preamble. Here’s the list!

Books that have been on my TBR the longest (and that I still haven’t read)

Cover of Lucky Jim1. Lucky Jim by Kingsley Amis

I work at a university. Why haven’t I read this yet?? I think I saw it mentioned on a blog, slapped it on the to-read list, and promptly forgot about it. Par for the course, really.

 

 

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See? Languishing.

2. The Children’s Book by A.S. Byatt

This one ticks so many boxes for me—the V&A Museum! a rambling country house! England! Europe!—and yet, there you see it, languishing on a shelf.

 

Cover of We Have Always Lived in the Castle3. We Have Always Lived in the Castle by Shirley Jackson

I love Shirley Jackson, like, as a person. I adored The Haunting of Hill House and I’m aiming to read her memoirs at some point so that counts for something, I suppose. I’ve tried reading We Have Always Lived in the Castle. I’ve tried listening to the audiobook. It should be a shoo-in for me, but I can’t get through it. And because I refuse to give up, it remains in the TBR.

Cover of Life's Companion: Journaling as a Spiritual Path

Just looking at it makes me feel guilty…that’s it, I’m donating it!

4. Life’s Companion: Journal Writing as a Spiritual Practice by Christina Baldwin

This has probably been in my TBR the longest. Again, I own it and it’s languishing on a shelf. I keep cracking it open and reading the first few pages. Then, it makes me feel like I should be journaling, a feeling to which I respond with immediate rebellion and close the book. Thus, it remains TBR.

Cover of The Blind Assassin5. The Blind Assassin by Margaret Atwood

I read my first Atwood book last year, The Handmaid’s Tale, and then I saw her when she came to speak at my alma mater. She’s very dry and witty. If you get a chance to see her speak, definitely go. Anyway, this has been on my TBR since about 2014 and there it remains.

Cover of The Goldfinch

Fool me once, Donna Tartt…

6. The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt

I want to read this, but I think I’m too traumatized from hate-reading The Secret History for book club.

 

 

Cover of 84, Charing Cross Road7. 84, Charing Cross Road by Helene Hanff

Again, this one checks a lot of boxes. Haven’t cracked it once.

 

 

49364578. The Time Traveller’s Guide to Medieval England: A Handbook for Visitors to the Fourteenth Century by Ian Mortimer

I have started this book. It’s just so dense. I know, a nonfiction medieval history is dense—big surprise, right? Still, I had hopes because of the fun illustration and the cheerful tone of the author. It’ll happen…eventually.

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The jury’s still out, tbh.

9. If You Want to Write: A Book about Art, Independence and Spirit by Brenda Ueland

I’ve been “currently reading” this book on Goodreads for about two months now. It really calls into question whether I actually do want to write. The truth is, writing creatively comes and goes these days. I don’t have any discernible writing practice. I can barely convince myself to journal in a notebook (see #4). My writing outside of work hours (where I write and edit and proof all day) is, at best, sporadic. At the same time, writing creatively has always been my thing. I suppose I’ll get back to it eventually.

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In the time it’s taken me to decide whether I want to read her first memoir, Derderer has written a whole other memoir.

10. Poser: My Life in Twenty-three Yoga Poses by Claire Derderer

I picked up this one because I like a good yoga memoir (my favorite so far is Yoga Bitch). I’ve started it a couple of times, though, and it just hasn’t held my attention. I’m on the fence about whether to try again or just DNF it.

 

If you’ve had enough of me and you’re interested in seeing the books other people aren’t reading, pop over to today’s post on That Artsy Reader Girl.

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